A Short Conversation I Had in Berkeley

The scene: New Year’s Day, waiting with a group of 4 mills students and alums for a seat for brunch at La Note

Strange Man: (awkwardly) What’s a group of good looking girls doing here without any men?
Me: Getting ready to kick your ass if you don’t bug off.
Strange Man: (still awkward) What? I’m a nice guy.
Me: clearly.
And then he uncertainly walked off, much to my disappointment. The wait was long and my blood sugar was low and I was really hoping to do some ass kicking. Afterwards, I felt it was good not to have brawled, because he clearly had some sort of disability or problem. Hopefully, at least he got a message that his approach is not going to work for him. I doubt it, though. I bet he went home and pondered how being a nice guy clearly wasn’t working for him and thus resolved to be less nice: ie more aggressive, more mean. It might have been better to explain to him exactly why his line wasn’t working out for him. (“Don’t approach strangers in public. Try bars or singles events instead. Don’t act as if women feel lonely having brunch without men around. Also, hello, don’t we look a little queer to you?”)
Of course, what sparked off my brawl-seeking rage was that he put me in a box marked “girl.” What?!!? Man-seeking feminine being?!? I must destroy you now!!
And then I read Fun Home by Allison Bechdel and I’m pondering gender on a more lesbian-identified perspective right now. I’d still want to fight that guy, though.

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Charles Céleste Hutchins

Supercolliding since 2003

2 thoughts on “A Short Conversation I Had in Berkeley”

  1. I’m curious, did you like La Not? It seems pricey and I almost went a few days ago but we didn’t realize it wasn’t open on Wed. But I am wondering if it’s worth the price anyways…


  2. I’ve only had breakfast there. It’s French-influenced, but I don’t think I’ve ever seen homefries in France (although, I haven’t been everywhere) so it’s got some CA going on too. Price-wise, well, it’s cheaper than restaurants in Europe.

    My French teacher at UC doesn’t like it. She prefers some place in Marin that is probably more authentic.

    The pain perdu is good. The omelets are normal for a brunch place. The café au lait is good. I would eat there again.

    My favorite brunch place is Lois the Pie Queen, though. The biscuits there are amazing.

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